Friday, May 11, 2007

Closing a chapter

Tuesday, May 15th, marks the final closing of a chapter in my life that I've been waiting, and waiting, and waiting to happen.  Adam is finally going to trial. I met with the district attorney last week, and the justice system is finally working. It's been a long time coming and a long healing process, but this marks the final closure.  Once the trial is over, I can officially close this chapter of my life and move forward.  Yes, for those who have asked, I am testifying.  After a lot of thought and a lot of soul-searching, it is what I have to do.  I can only imagine the face of a daughter or a sister or a friend and imagining them going through what I went through. It may not protect many, but knowing that I could have protectd one person is enough of a call.

Thank you, thank you, thank you to those of you who have been absolutely amazing friends over the last year and a half.  I could not have made it without you. You have been my rocks, my hope, and my lifeline.  I love you guys :-)

This is a chapter I'm all too happy to leave behind, and I'm ready to move forward with my life without having to keep looking backwards.  A new beginning, a new day, a new chapter in my life.

"Ain't nothing gonna break-a my stride, nobody gonna slow me down!"

In the 15 mins or so since I posted this, I've gotten several messages from people who don't know what's going on or what happened.  No, it wasn't rape.  Blessed be, I don't have the emotional scars from that.  Domestic violence is another demon entirely, one that I never saw coming.  I encourage you to read my post from the one year anniversary
here if you really want to know more.

Tuesday, May 8, 2007

the big cheese

I have found the secret to success.

Okay, so it won't win you fortune and fame, and it won't help you get that cute guy's phone number, but in the grand scheme of things, it makes life that much fuller, that much richer, and that much more worth living.

Be friends with your parents.

Not such a novel idea, I know.  But it astounded me how many people were amazed that my dad is my favorite party buddy.  I spent the weekend rockin' Memphis with him, and I have more fun hanging out in bars and checking out whatever bands we can find than I would with anyone else. Jager shots, Blue Moon, Bud Light, Patron, some strange concoction that tasted slightly like a green Jolly Rancher, Taj Mahal, the Allman Brothers, North Mississippi Allstars, a whole lot of corn dogs, rain up to your eyeballs, losing the car, the Counting Crows, Barenaked Ladies, Guster, dancing til your feet hurt, and then dancing some more....sounds like a fantastic weekend.  And it was. 

And the best part was creating memories with my dad that I'll cherish for the rest of my life.

I guess it's safe to say that we're two peas in a pod in a lot of ways--music is music and makes the world a better place.  There's nothing like an outdoor festival, sunshine and summertime.  Neither of us can stand to live away from the water, and both of us would be happy with a bunch of oysters, crackers and cocktail sauce.  Blue Moon is our beer of choice.  Auburn is our team, and we'll cheer for Ole Miss only if they're not playing the orange and blue.  Rock and the blues is our genres of choice.  We really don't care what people think about us, and have a penchant for acting like retards just to irritate someone know who you are if you've been targeted by said treatment :-)

I consider myself extremely blessed to be able to consider my dad both my father and my friend.  I know I can count on him, more so than just about anyone else in my life, and I also know that where daddy is, a good time isn't too far behind.